I think if there is any common emotion that incorporates acute sadness with the feeling that all your oxygen has just been sucked out of your lungs, it is disappointment. It is the kick in the guts response to an expectation fallen short, bad news, and a crisis that bring your life to its knees. Think of the times that you have been let down in your life.
Think of the time when your hopes have been broken and what you thought what was supposed to happen, didn’t. It is the check that never arrives in the mail or the phone that never rings. It is the “C” on the paper that you thought you had an “A.” It is interview that went great but that job that never called back. It is the girl or boy that said, “sorry, I just want to be friends.” It is the time in our lives when just when we think that all signs point to “Yes”, what we receive instead is, “No.”
But the worse kind of disappointment is the disappointment in yourself. The feeling that you could’ve done, should’ve done, or wish you’d done something better, something more, or something else. The decisions you wish you’d made differently, the paths that you wish you’d taken or wish you passed by. The holes in your life you wish you filled with more time doing the things that meant something instead of yielding to the things that just felt right at the time.
Disappointment is the emotion of crippling measure. Yet, every disappointment, there is always a way to stand up again, to look forward, and to bring ourselves back from that feeling of despair.
We begin by looking at what we have around us right now. We are here. We are present. We are in this life. And this life is very, very good. Breathe in. That is the first thing to regaining your balance. Breathe in again.
Now look at all that exists around you right now. See everything that is in your immediate vision and a few yards beyond. Look at this world that you have been given. Count this as a blessing, then count one more: You are here. You are present. You are among the living. And with every time that you are knocked down you decide to get back up, you begin to live again.
You are not your past. You are not the things that have caused you pain. You are a living, breathing child of the Universe. You matter. You mean something, And from this moment forward, you can make your life into everything you believe you can. We all have lived in the grips of disappointment. But disappointment is transient. It’s a small emotion. It leaves quickly. And when we adjust our focus, disappointment can never dominate the feelings of Faith, Hope and Love.
And the last one, Love, will soften all hurts, will heal all wounds, and will let us live our lives with resiliency and strength, gentleness and forgiveness, particularly of ourselves.
In this life, let Love be your guide. Your disappointments do not define you. Only your ability to forgive, to embrace and to Love will guide you back to your true self, and give you the strength you need to look forward to another day.
Disappointments will fade. Shift your energy to the world around you. Breathe in life, exhale the gratitude that supports the love in your life. And set forth on a new path. Every step toward love creates a path of renewed faith, new hope, and new life.
Disappointments leave you standing still. Walk away from the hurt. Look to the life you are living, and that love that radiates within you.
Love will keep you in motion. Generate the faith again, and restore your energy.
The disappointment will disappear. The love you create, in its place, will keep your alive.
By entrusting us with your feelings, we help you take steps that you see necessary to begin and put forth the energy to make the needed change.
Now notice something: Trust in a coach, mentor, or guide helps you see what's in front of you. We see a Coach for Your Heart a little like an emotional Sherpa, somebody that helps you climb your mountain by pointing out where to best step along the path.
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