Songs for the Heart, Week of Christmas Edition, Number 4, “I Will,” by Paul McCartney
In 2003, I was asked to sing this song at a wake in the funeral home in Oceanside.
It was the wake of my older brother, Chris. He died suddenly in an automobile accident.
Chris told me once that we were “soul mates.” He was right. We were.
I didn’t want to go to the wake or the funeral. I grieve privately. And I didn’t want to see the rest of the family. They had their issues with Chris, and I was too upset to face them.
The viewing began at a funeral home in Oceanside at about 4pm. I was in my office. I took the rest of the day off. Felt profoundly sad.
Then my phone rang. For some reason, I picked up the phone.
Whenever I answer the phone, I always answer the same, saying only my name. I don’t say “hello.” I don’t say, “can I help you.” I always say, “Ed McShane.”
And on the other end of the phone, I hear this gentle voice that says, “Felicia McShane.”
It was my brother’s wife.
She asked me where I was. I told her I was in my office, that it would be too hard for me to come right now, but that I would see her after the funeral.
She said, “Eddie, I called to ask a favor. I want you to do the eulogy tomorrow. But, before that, I want you to come to the viewing and sit with me. And I want you to bring your guitar.”
“Bring my guitar?”
“Yes. You know the song that you asked Chris to teach you a few months ago?”
“I Will?” I said. I learned it for a dear friend of mine who, like Chris, unconditionally loved me.
“Yes. Eddie, that was our song. And I would love it right now if you’d sit with me and play that on your guitar. It reminds me of him, and I need to feel him with me right now.”
This song reminds me of my brother. And it makes me happy every time I hear it.
(that’s me in the fireman’s hat standing next to my brother. Christmas, 1961)
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